Do You?

Soundtrack:
I just wonder
Do you ever
Think of me
Anymore
Do you?.....................
Ne-Yo - Do You

It’s that scenario that I think most of us can relate to. One of the many crazy situations we choose to put ourselves through. Whether you chose to end the relationship or it just kind of fizzled out, sometimes you are left wondering. You’re wondering how he is doing, what he’s been up to, or simply if he ever wonders about you. I think that wondering if he’s wondering about you is what most of us are guilty of. Self absorbed, yes, but who cares. You decide to remedy your curiosity with a call, text, or email. Something as simple as “hey stranger”, “long time, no see”, “how are you” can open you up to something you weren’t prepared to hear. He tells you that he’s well, the job is good, and then he mentions something about his fiancé. Ok…so the fat lady has sung and the batch got an engagement ring out of it. Brace yourself for the impact because that’s about to hit you like a ton of bricks. For a millisecond, your brain tricks you into believing that maybe you misunderstood. Then, in the blink of an eye reality sets in and you try to regain your composure. You try to think of something to say quickly or your hesitation will give you away. Out of all the words in the English language, you’ll probably only be able to form your lips or allow your fingers to type “Congrats!” (Gotta make sure you include that exclamation mark in text/email to show your enthusiasm ßnote the sarcasm). J In less than five minutes, your brain will start going through all the different scenarios of how it should/could have been you. What a powerful mechanism the human brain is……equally as powerful, the heart. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since the two of you have communicated, what matters is that when you do talk, there’s still a possibility. Talk of fiancés and babies erase all hope of possibility. Unless you’re a home wrecker, you decide to handle it with class. With your “Congrats!”, you know this is the last time you’ll talk, but not the last time you’ll wonder. How many of us wonder? Should we allow our curiosity to get the best of us or should we continue to live in our own personal dream world where the possibility never ends?